By the way – this summer with a swimming pool AND an air-conditioned house is just about the best feeling summer ever! It is amazing what not turning into a puddle every afternoon does for you. I have the air conditioning set to turn on at 76 degrees, which I hear is pretty warm, but people, it’s waaaaaaaay cooler than it is outside! And anything below 80ish allows me to keep functioning. (Well, as much as I do anyway)
Ok, so Jordan has been a real pill the last two days. But you know something? He had two full weeks of amazing. I hadn’t remembered about how amazing he could be. God blessed me with a window into my little boy so that I could, no, I have fallen in love with him. Oh, he has been all over the place and feeling all different ways, but he was my Jordan and I actually found myself finding him to give him smooches now and then. I love my little boy!
Something is different today, though and now I realize that it really was hard (and not just in my head) going on 3+ months of these behaviors with no break. (He had strep throat off and on for 3 months and was never 100% during that time.) It is disheartening to watch him struggle and not be able to fix it for him. But… the last two weeks I had a window of the real, underneath-the-diagnoses Jordan! And that Jordan is still under there and I will get to see him again! I just need to be stable and safe and structured and nurturing until then.
The behaviors that are back (for those of you in similar boats and those of you who just want to understand) are things like: throwing every blessed toy, be it big or small, but especially hard and noisy ones. Laughing hysterically and inappropriately and generally being unreachable and unreasonable. Stimming a lot (tongue sucking especially) and stimming more intensely and compulsively. Running around the house and getting into trouble instead of interacting with siblings or playing more appropriately (usually, grabbing and throwing all items). Just seeming more disorganized in his thought patterns. Some of this is pretty subtle, but it’s very obvious to his Mommy and is sometimes very, very obvious.
Why the change? Good question! We are playing the guessing game. Attachment disorder processing? Physical discomfort from something? He learned something new that’s got his brain in hyperdrive? Something about autism or sensory processing that I don’t understand? Something we did or somewhere we went that caused him anxiety that he’s expressing after the fact? He noticed his hair is on his ears and knows I’m going to cut his hair soon? (just joking with that one) Boredom from an extended summer vacation?
Anyway, I loved that I got to re-fall-in-love with Jordan and enjoy him so thoroughly for a few weeks. And I’m praying it stays at the forefront of my mind and that I remember patience as I navigate the moment-to-moment situations. Like laughing and falling down instead of holding my hand and walking with me. What do I do with that? Anger, stay at bay! Patience, take control. Pray, pray, pray.
Anna is in second grade this year and Maggie is a young Kindergartener. Here is my weekly homeschool plan, showing basically the school plan each week. There is a space there by each subject where I can write down once a week which lessons we’re working on. Also, the words in bold are things for in the evening. Umm… the stickers referenced on the bo>ttom are this year’s motivating bonus. Every ten stickers, they get to choose a prize. Included in prizes are: new crayons, suckers, gum, coupons for minecraft, cooking with Mom, stickers, etc.
It took me awhile to get it laid out so that I felt that we had a balanced curriculum that wasn’t too HUGE. Anna’s learning a lot in second grade, but no need to cram a bijillion things in and take all day. Things you don’t really see are art (because they’re doing a lot on their own right now), science (they’re working on a field guide to our own property)…. umm… I think it’s all pretty much there. We’re getting excited!
A few other details for those curious:
Handwritten things get checked for neatness by mom.
Typed things need to be typed with fingers in the right places.
Spelling, Phonics and Math are all Horizons workbooks
I’m their piano teacher – we’ll work on learning to read music and understand counting/rhythm
I have a list of early chapter books (Like Mandie Books, Bobbsey Twins and so forth) that Anna can choose from for her book reports. Book Report Template Book Reading List
Her research reports will be from books and the internet… first, she will be researching different pet options and writing me a guided report on each. Pet Report
The weekly email report will be a description of what she did that week and it will be emailed to my Mom and Dad.
The Character books are different “with the Millers” books and also Ron Coriell character books.
AWANA on Wednesdays requires Bible memorization throughout the week… usually in the evenings when Brian is reading to the girls.
Buck Denver… ok, the What’s in the Bible series is pretty awesome. I’m looking forward to watching and learning along with the kids every Friday night.
Pretty excited about taking the girls to ballet… hope it works out and we get to go all year.
Oh… and Maggie’s work – She has a Horizon’s math book and a general ed Kindergarten book. Learning to read will consist of the early readers I had from Anna… it’s always hard for me to find enough true early, early readers until they are completely launched.
The messages and emails and notes and comments and phone calls and in-person conversations since I wrote my blog post about getting treatment for depression have been AMAZING. I haven’t responded to a fraction of you and I probably won’t get to them all. I’m just holding those notes close to me and pressing forward. Thank you for loving me, friends.
(If you haven’t read the blog posts I’ve linked to, I would encourage you to.)
It has long been a dream of Paul and Pam Hunter to do something about the poor health care for childbearing mothers in Uganda. The hospital doesn’t provide anything without pay and often doesn’t provide anything… a bed, sheets, clothes or diapers for the baby, MEDICINE, MEDICAL SUPPLIES, any special support for child mothers or mothers who lose their babies and the care which is provided is often without dignity or precision. Not long ago, they were able to purchase land to build a Women’s Clinic. It won’t be big, but it should be sufficient to offer quality medical care and God’s love to families.
Just last fall, my parents (Dale and Daurelle Chapman) moved to Uganda, prepared to do whatever the Lord called them to. They wrapped up their first year serving families who needed heart surgeries, partnering with Morning Star Foundation. Starting this summer, they have transitioned to building and managing the NGM Women’s Health Clinic on that property!
My parents, Dale and Daurelle with Paul and Pam
My parents surprised us by flying home for a visit this spring!!! How we miss them. Along with visiting family and friends, they also sold any of their worldly possessions of value that weren’t nailed down. They are serving as volunteers with their own resources and have not gathered any financial support. However, their own resources are nearly expended and they are trusting that if the Lord wants them to stay and serve, that He will provide for their daily needs.
Now, if sacrificially serving childbearing women in need isn’t God’s business, I don’t know what is. I have no hesitations in inviting you to consider supporting my parents as they pour themselves out for their good friends in Jinja, Uganda. You can pray for them, you can try to ship needed items to them (that’s challenging) and you can support them financially. Donations can be made through Next Generation Ministries specifically for Mom and Dad and the Women’s Health Clinic with the paypal link on their blog. You can also mail checks to the address listed here with a memo for the Women’s Health Clinic or Dale & Daurelle.
Dad was given a chicken as a gift from a happy family whose daughter had a successful heart surgery. :-)
Dad and good friend Meddie!
Mom and Dad on their way home from church.
Mom and friend Sophie
I am proud and happy and sad all at the same time. I have an amazing heritage. And I am so happy I was able to hug and see and talk with my parents in person this spring!
Family beach trip when we were kids.