Yesterday, our dossier (adoption paperwork) was presented at the IAC (International Adoption Committee) in the Eastern European country we’re adopting from. It was approved for us to move forward. As soon as the MOJ (Minister of Justice) signs this paper, we can make our trip one! And the interim government has been signing quickly, so it is likely that we will have that paper signed next week!
I get to meet my son SOON. The first long wait of this adoption process is finishing.
I have tears in my eyes and hope blooming all over the place.
Life has been full. Sometimes Brian and I try to figure out what we can cut out, because we’ve bitten off too much. But the only things that are easy to cut out are things that we enjoy… like chickens and gardening and dogs. Those are all “extra” but they all contribute enjoyment. Laundry, now there’s one thing I wouldn’t mine losing. It’s the coordinating that seems to get me first. Trying to keep up with friends, doctor appointments, dentist, glasses, ballet, play dates, finding a babysitter for this or that, cleaning my desk again to try and figure out who I’ve forgotten. Nothing like forgetting important things to keep me humble! Not that I can think of a specific example. That would require… you know… remembering.
March was difficult. We lost Brian’s mom halfway through the month. Everything kinda stopped that day. We’re still fumbling a bit to get our momentum on the daily living things. But saying goodbye and seeing death and a relationship finished… it’s painful and alters… a lot.
I get the feeling that if I write much more, you’re going to see a lot more of those trailing periods. … The slow waiting for words or thoughts that aren’t cohesive to come into focus.
His face cracks me up!
Little cave on the way up. FYI, eight young children on a hike up the side of a cliff is a bit of a stressful hike.
Neither Anna or I liked looking over the edge of the falls much.
Multnomah Falls – the top – carried Jordan up on my back – booyah!
The bee hive looks GREAT!
It was a verrrrrry cold pre-5K with my brother Neal
Probably watching wild kratts.
Maggie and her papa.
I’ve been running regularly and exercising regularly. I ran my FIRST EVER 5K for the Portland Shamrock Run in March. And since then, I’ve run 5K two more times on my own! I’m so excited for me! I feel powerful physically for the first time in fifteen years. Since whenever I was hauling bales of hay and cleaning stalls and wrangling horses. It feels good. Since I achieved the goal I set a year ago (running a 5K), my new goal is to maintain my distance ability while improving upper body strength. Since we’re adopting a non-ambulatory 4-year-old, I believe that I have my priorities straight.
Speaking of adoption – either April 20 or 27th I should have some good news! That’s when our paperwork is submitted to the government adoption committee. It won’t be too long after that that we’ll travel. Maybe one month? Maybe less, maybe more. The closer it gets, the more my heart yearns for that second trip, when we get to bring him home. It’s hard to love a child and have them outside of your control. Keep praying for Daniel!
The fundraiser garage sale got delayed, but it’s still going to happen. Our basement has lots of great stuff in it. It’s a disaster, honestly… it’s on the list of things to clean up. 🙂
I am compiling a list of all the people who have offered prayers, garage sale donations and financial contributions towards helping Daniel transform from orphan to son. I am missing quite a few. If you want your name on his puzzle or if you know somebody who should be on here, let me know so I can remember to add their names! On my handwritten list, I have more notes about each person, but thought i’d keep it semi-anonymous here.
From November last year.
All extended family member names… plus:
Paul & Gretchen
Philip and Anna
Tim & Lydia
Toni in Bulgaria
Larry & Kristy
Robby & Dianna
Mary Jo G.
Jennifer S. (Dwain, Jen, Glenn, Makayla, Trey, Micah)
Mike & Debbie D. (Olivia, Caleb, Set)
First off – we have Daniel’s middle name chosen! His name will be Daniel Stephen (spelling still TBD). Daniel means, “God is my judge.” Stephen means “victor, crown, wreath, honor…” Together, they mean either “God judges me victorious” or something along those lines. Any way you put those names and meanings together, I love it. The name Daniel also honors his birth names. Daniel in the Bible trusted God even through adversity. And Stephen in the Bible had a gentle, forgiving and incredibly strong spirit.
Awww… It’s growing harder to let him live away from me. We are praying this red tape away as fast as possible. Pray with us that the paperwork will be speedy!
Daniel one year ago
Daniel’s adoption paperwork is crawling right along. The homestudy is finished. We have applied for permission to adopt from US immigration (USCIS). That takes a couple months to get an answer from and had its very own fingerprinting appointment in downtown Portland. Our medicals are done, a bunch of paperwork from the social worker is complete and notarized and the whole stack (roughly an inch thick) has been apostilled (special authentication) and mailed to our adoption agency. As soon as we get that approval from USCIS (hopefully we filled out all our paperwork correctly and they don’t have any problems!), then everything will get sent to Daniel’s country of birth to be translated and submitted to the government there.
Once the paperwork is submitted in country, we have to wait for a signature. Once we have that signature (usually takes a month-ish after translation), then we will get travel dates for trip 1! That’s looking like anytime between May and July.
We get to bring him home 3-6 months after that trip… so August-January!!! Praying for August, which is, frankly, unlikely. (sigh)
Things that would be helpful to us:
Donations to the fundraiser garage sale we are preparing
Credit card points that can be used to help pay for airfare (this is a big chunk of the adoption expense!)
Straight up money donations (paypal or the tax-deductible fundraiser account at https://purecharity.com/davis-family-adoption-5)
Remember that all type of support will get your name on the back of Daniel’s “cheerleader” puzzle, which will show Daniel tangible proof of the support and love that was being poured out for him even while he was alone in the orphanage.
The puzzle is titled, “Victory”
My daughter Anna is almost ten years old and we went on a mother daughter retreat!
After swimming at the hotel pool.
It was a cold, windy, wet, day on the Oregon coast. Not as windy as the day before, though, or we wouldn’t have gone out.
Anna and I ate at Camp 18 on the way home from our mother-daughter retreat at the beach.
The beam is the largest in North America or something crazy like that.
The checkout station is inside a trunk!
Huge slabs of wood. Huge carved wood statues. Chainsaws longer than I am tall.
Just a normal day at home.
The park is closed to cars for the winter.
I don’t know why Carolyn’s coat is on her head.
The kids ran ahead!
Four generation spread of Davis men.
We had lunch at Dairy Queen first. Then went to the park. Then went back and ate ice cream. 😀
It was cold, but sunny!
Generations of memories here.
A visit with Great Grandpa is never complete without a walk at the park by his home.
This just held a receipt, but it made my heart beat fast! Once we get an approval notice in one of these envelopes, we send paperwork across the ocean for the next stage of Daniel’s adoption!
Our septic alarm had been going off for awhile. It was floooOOOOded. These guys had a hard time of it, but we think it’s fixed now!
Observing… and not plugging their nose at the moment.
This… is an electricity free siphon pump.
Septic guys to the rescue…
The littler cousins.
Anna holding her one year old cousin. This makes me emotional.
Our little dog Benny is a bit of a lover.
Me after a run.
Playing the wii at my cousin Lydia’s.
No snow meant fun outside!
Jordan found the sun spot!
Learning about zoodles at Lydia’s!
Hanging out and chatting with Kevin.
Playing chess at Grandma and Kevin’s.
Maggie loves her stretchy suit thing.
My uncle Kevin and grandma have a proper home theatre inside their house! We had fun watching Shrek 2 in there.
Learning how to communicate during OT:
Playing in the pool during our retreat!
There was lots of snow coming down on the coastal range as we drove home, so Anna documented it:
Throwing rocks into the river at Grandpa Davis’ is a timeless adventure:
Jordan coping with the stress of new places very well here:
You probably don’t want to watch these videos… they’re just simple recordings of Jordan crying. We went on a trip to see family for two nights. It was, for Jordan, grueling. He cried each night and was very close to unresponsive to our ministrations. Or rather, he was unresponsive off and on, but never stopped crying, just looked at us or took a deep breath before beginning again. Phew. It was hard. Is hard? People ask why he has a hard time and I don’t even know how to answer that. It’s simply that we’re asking more from him than he can do. He tries and then he become weary and he melts down. For a long time. Sorry to end on a sad note!
Driving – lasted 1-2 hours.
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We're just a typical, atypical family in the Pacific Northwest. We homeschool, love Jesus and are learning as we go.
We have three beautiful daughters, born in 2007, 2009 and 2012 and two handsome sons (one born in 2009 who arrived home December, 2011 and one born in 2013 who should arrive home in 2017).
After learning about the need for adoptive families of children with special needs, (and here and here) we began the process to adopt our son Jordan (who has Down Syndrome). He arrived home on December 3rd, 2011!. You can see photos from our trips to Bulgaria by looking at June and Nov/Dec 2011 archives.